The Toltec civilisation is legendary for its sculptures, art and impressive monuments. Although they were known to thrive between 900 and 1150 A.D. some of their work still abounds in middle Mexico today. But it’s their fascinating wisdom which has encouraged numerous authors over the decades to help millions of people live more authentic lives.
A bit like Buddhism, Toltec Wisdom is a path not a religion, that asks us to move beyond our own self-created, self-limiting belief systems to live more healthy lives. The most celebrated author in the field of Toltec Wisdom is a Mexican man by the name Don Miguel Ruiz who distilled the teachings into five basic lessons or agreements.
His first book, The Four Agreements, has sold more than 9 million copies, been translated into 40 plus languages and been on the New York Times bestselling list for more than a decade. He more recently released The Fifth Agreement. His teachings are based on the concept of agreements. “Everything we do is based on agreements we have made - agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life. But the most important agreements are the ones we make with ourselves,” he says.
But what are they and how can they be used to help you be the best version of yourself? Simply said, these are pacts that you make with yourself to understand your worth and that of others. It’s a wonderful foray into the lesson of mindfulness and purpose.
1. Don’t Make Assumptions
To assume something is to trick our minds into one way of seeing something, when by nature our perceptions should be limitless. When we assume, we put on the blinkers. We need to find the courage to ask questions. Often we feel that our questions are silly and so we make assumptions. The truth is, there are no stupid questions, only stupid answers. This is how we remain creative and find solutions to problems that mightn’t even exist. Experts say that creativity is rooted in the emotion of curiosity. We need to unlearn and learn again through questions to express exactly what it is that we want as clearly and concisely as possible to avoid confusion, misunderstandings and drama.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Who are we to think that we’re so important that how others feel or react is because of us? Nothing other people do is because of you. Ruiz says that what other people say and do is a projection of their own reality and dream. Are perceptions real? Companies listed on any stock exchange will say yes, of course they are. Any negative press about the company might result in its share price plummeting. But the question is, can we control other people’s perceptions, and should we? Surely, if we work to identify and perfect our own personal character defects, we’ll become more immune to the opinions of others and be more understanding of other people's journeys?
3. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Always speak with integrity and make your word your bond. Say what you mean with kindness and always in the direction of truth. This is the basis of positive self-talk. Never use your words to speak harshly about yourself or even to gossip about others. Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never harm me. Well, that’s not quite true is it? Words have power and once uttered have a ripple effect that can never be retracted. Always come from a higher place of love and remember to practice the pause in heated situations. And remember never to make promises that you cannot keep.
4. Always Do Your Best
Doing your best is a feeling of accomplishment. Knowing that you gave your all at any given moment boosts your sense of self-worth. Now, what you consider to be your best is going to differ from day-to-day, hour-to-hour and even moment-to-moment. But if you continually strive to do your best at all times, you’ll avoid harsh self-judgement and self-harm. One way of doing this is by asking yourself a simple question: If I do this or don’t do it, will I regret it? We want you to live without regret. In the end, we only regret the chances that we didn’t take by being our best selves and trusting our judgement. What holds us back? Fear. The good news is that fear is temporary. The not so good news is that regret is forever. Simply do your best and earn respect rather than regret.
5. Be Sceptical But Learn To Listen
When we’re talking, we’re not truly listening are we? When we’re not questioning, we might trick ourselves into repeating self-sabotaging patterns of behaviour. When we’re not listening with all our senses, we’re not truly finding the intent behind the words and their meaning. It doesn’t really matter whether we’re conversing with others or ourselves. What triggers us to feel that way? Doubt versus Hope. We need to learn to listen actively. This is often considered an acquired skill and is a technique used by counsellors and arbitrators.
Although mental wellbeing starts with honest self-reflection, we are able to assist physically through proper nutrition, moderate exercise and the right balance of supplements. If you’re struggling to keep any of those agreements and you feel fearful or even depressed by them, consider supplementing with Cellnutrition Omegabiocell369 - a range of products designed to give your brain and heart an energetic boost to ensure that you meet those agreements with a smile.